Thursday, October 25, 2012

Rape and it's aftermath

With apologies to Kurt for stealing his title.

I've been remiss and several people have reminded me. Mea culpa! ;(

I have several things I have been thinking about lately as you all probably can imagine. I mean it's election season in the U.S. And what about that flawless uppercut lol! All kidding aside though. My friend Kurt posted on his blog about Senator Murdoch's comments regarding God and rape.  He's a good guy. It's worth reading what he has to say. Anyway, I posted my thoughts in the comments and would like to share them with you.

Senator Murdock, when asked whether abortion should be legal in cases of rape or incest responded as follows:
"I struggled with it myself for a long time, but I came to realize that life is that gift from God. And, I think, even when life begins in that horrible situation of rape, that it is something that God intended to happen,"

Ugh~! what an idiot, she says with a shudder.

I would like to think that Senator Murdock did not mean what he said exactly the way he said it. [But that's probably just my eternal optimism :)] I don't believe that God causes bad things to happen. I do believe that when bad things happen God can be there to help us through them and that good can come from it because of God's help and guidance. I also think that we don't always see what that is or will be. Pregnancy resulting from rape can be a particularly difficult issue. Any pregnancy takes a physical and emotional toll on a woman already. For nine months a rape victim would be reminded daily of the crime perpetrated against her and the person who did it. Not only was she raped but it didn't end when the actual act ended. For almost another year, her body is still not her own. Then there is the decision of whether to keep the child or put it up for adoption. Another emotional quagmire forced on the woman by the rapist. How do you separate your feelings about a child from your feelings about it's conception? There are women who can and do find the strength and faith to have and even keep children conceived from rape.  I absolutely celebrate and applaud the resilience and faith of those women. Their decision does not  come easy. The state cannot and does not give those women the resilience and faith they need. No legislation can tell a woman how to feel, or make her see the potential for God's grace in her situation, and because it can't, it also can't take away her choice.

1 comment:

  1. Toni - thank you for sharing your views and for your support of women and our choices. I agree that personal, intimate and spiritual decisions like these cannot and should not be legislated by others. Whether a woman decides to end the pregnancy, deliver and raise the child or make an adoption plan for her child, each decision carries the very real potential for lifelong grief and pain. Thanks for speaking out.